Spoiler alert: No, we don’t have eight arms. But wouldn’t that be nice?
Raising twins is one of those things people love to comment on. I swear, the moment someone finds out you have twins, it’s like a switch flips. Suddenly they have thoughts, advice, and stories about their cousin’s best friend’s twins who did X, Y, and Z.
Whether you’re a new twin mom, pregnant with two babies doing flips in your belly, or already deep in the toddler tornado phase, you’ve probably heard at least one of these twin myths. And if you’re anything like me, you’ve just smiled politely while inwardly thinking, “That’s not even close.”
So let’s clear things up! These are five of the most common myths about raising twins- and the real truth behind them.
Myth #1: Twins Sleep at the Same Time
Reality: Sometimes. Eventually. But not always. Definitely not at first.
This is one of the biggest shockers for new twin parents. People love to imagine that because twins were born at the same time, they magically operate on the same schedule. Wouldn’t that be nice and easy?
In reality, getting twins to sleep at the same time is a process. And sometimes a long one. You’ll likely have a few weeks (or months… or, let’s be honest, longer) of one twin waking the other up, one needing to be rocked while the other screams, and nap schedules that feel more like a constant job.
But here’s the good news: with time, consistency, and maybe even a white noise machine, it can happen. Most twin moms eventually figure out a rhythm that works for their babies. It’s all about syncing feeding, nap, and bedtime routines.
Twin Tip: Wake one, wake the other. If one baby wakes up to eat, wake the other one up too. It might feel counterintuitive, but it helps you avoid running a 24/7 baby buffet. To this day I keep my twins on the same schedule!
Myth #2: Twins Have the Same Personality
Reality: Two babies. Two brains. Two wildly different personalities.
Even if your twins look identical, chances are their personalities couldn’t be more different. One might be chill, smiley, and content watching the world go by. The other might have opinions (strong ones) and absolutely no hesitation expressing them at full volume.
One might love noisy toys and chaos. The other might be all about snuggles and books. Honor that. Celebrate it. They’re not “the twins.” They’re two whole people.
My daughter is curious and cautious. My son is a complete tornado. Twins- alike but different.
Mom Tip: Avoid labeling them as “the outgoing one” or “the shy one” even if it’s well-intentioned. Let them grow into their own identities naturally.
Myth #3: You Must Be a Supermom to Raise Twins
Reality: Nah, you just do what you need to do to get by.
Do people look at you with wide eyes and say, “I don’t know how you do it!” while you’re juggling a twin tantrum in Target? Yes. Does that mean you’re a different type of superhero mom? No.
Raising twins is intense. There are more diapers, more tears, more giggles, more laundry, and sometimes way less sleep. But you don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have it all together.
Us twin moms just do it. Because we have to. Just like every other mom does it! We’re ALL superheroes.
Real Talk: Asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you wise. Accept the babysitting. Say yes to the meal drop-off. Say no to toxic independence. You weren’t meant to do this alone.
Myth #4: You Need Two of Everything
Reality: Your home (and wallet) will thank you if you don’t.
Here’s the truth: the baby industry loves to convince parents that you need two of everything when you have twins. Two swings. Two bouncers. Two wipe warmers. But unless you’ve got a mansion with unlimited closet space and unlimited cash flow, it’s just not doable.
Some things you’ll absolutely want two of. Car seats, cribs, bottles, and high chairs, for example. But a lot of stuff? Totally sharable. My twins rotated between one play mat just fine. Even with toys now as toddlers, they get one set and have to learn to share.
Plus, your twins might not even like the same things. One might adore the swing and the other could scream like they’re being tortured every time you put them in it.
Pro Tip: Wait to buy doubles until you know both babies like the item. Otherwise, you’ll end up with a graveyard of unused baby gear in your garage.
Myth #5: It Gets Easier After the First Year
Reality: I wouldn’t say it gets easier. I’d say it gets different.
Ah yes, the mythical light at the end of the tunnel: “Once they turn one, it gets easier!” I don’t know who started this rumor, but I’m convinced they didn’t have kids.
The first year is hard. You’re sleep-deprived, constantly feeding someone, and googling things like “is green poop normal.” But after that? Your twins learn to walk, run, climb, and my personal favorite: team up.
Toddler twins are sneaky. They get ideas. They egg each other on. They stage silent revolts against nap time and hide Goldfish crackers in your shoes.
They also start playing together. They laugh in sync. They give hugs (even to each other!). They become little humans with hilarious conversations and inside jokes only they understand. That’s when the magic kicks in.
Mom Mantra: It doesn’t always get easier. But you get better. More confident. More capable. More in tune with your kids. And that makes all the difference.
Final Thoughts: You’re Doing Better Than You Think
Raising twins is not for the faint of heart, but it is full of joy, surprises, and that very specific feeling of surviving a day you weren’t sure you’d make it through. The next time someone drops a twin myth on you, feel free to smile and say, “Actually, here’s how it really works…” …or just nod and roll your eyes later in the car.
Whether you’re running on three hours of sleep or you just rocked the bedtime routine like a boss, just know this: you are the exact mom your twins need. Myth-busting, snack-fetching, bedtime-negotiating and all.
And hey, if anyone ever tells you it’s “double the trouble,” hit them with the truth:
It’s double the love. Double the chaos. And double the blessings. Even if I’m double fisting cold coffee right now.
